Problematic attractions in couple relationships

[ENG]

”I am confused, and I think you can help me understand a problem on a deeper level. I hope you've got the mood and time for it. We've talked in the past, and I'm still following you. I'll get straight to the point.

Therefore,

1. What do you think about a man who is attracted to his wife's 16-year-old child from another marriage?

2. How should the wife relate to this?

I don't see it as something wrong but as a matter of morality. I mean, I wouldn't see any problem if the young woman wasn't family.”

There are too few details to conclude, but I will analyze the two possible extreme cases starting from this context.

First of all, it must be said that it is natural for a beautiful teenage girl to be attracted to any man who is still vital, regardless of his age. It is almost impossible for a beautiful and fresh young woman to go unnoticed and not to incite. Attraction and incitement are inevitable and innocent.

The fact that the young woman is the wife's child does not affect the effect on the level of attraction. To your man, your teenage daughter is a woman and he perceives her as such, but the intensity of the attraction and the exaggerated importance you give as a man to such attraction is problematic and may raise suspicions of immaturity or imbalances.

If the attraction has become an obsession that affects his other relationships, the man is surely missing a lot of self and relationship benchmarks that should prevent him from becoming the husband of a mother with children.

In this whole hypothetical relationship equation, the only problem would be that you are the wife of the guy obsessed with your daughter. So, if you are not very careful, you will likely end up as a mother in competition with your daughter. Nothing good can come out of it. The more you feel humiliated by your daughter's success with your husband, the more the husband will become disinterested in you and more obsessed with the young woman. You will want him more to refute your feelings of inferiority. If the young daughter also enters the sick game and feels incited by your husband's interest, the relational cocktail becomes a truly explosive one.